The B.L.O.S.K.A.S. Method: How to Successfully Get a Date in College

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Since I am recently married, I thought that I would give some advice to my young friends who have not been as lucky as I am and found the perfect person for them. I have had several people ask me for advice, and so I have come up with an effective method of successfully getting a date. The method I have established is The B.L.O.S.K.A.S. Method. The B.L.O.S.K.A.S. method has been 100% successful (only one person has tried it that I am aware of) and should only be used by people serious about getting a date.

B- Be on the lookout

Be on the lookout

One of the most important things to remember is that you never know when you will run into, what seems to be, the perfect date. Once you master these skills, you will be prepared to put them into practice the second you meet someone you’d like to date. Make sure that you keep your eyes out everywhere that you go for your next potential date.

L- Lure them in

Lure them in

After finding a target and committing to the person, you have to use methods to make them interested. Dating is a lot like fishing; you have to know what tools to use and when to use them. One of the best ways of doing this is not to seem desperate but instead, make them feel like they would be the one who should be begging you for a date.

O- Open emotionally

Open Emotionally

It is important to make an instant connection and make sure that your intentions are clear from the start. You have to show them that you are interested in them as an individual and do not have alternative motives. The moment your potential date realizes that you care about them is the moment they’re hooked. For example, imagine you were lost in a strange city, and a homeless man off the street came up to you and started giving you directions. He is really “nice” to you but you, probably would not feel like making a personal connection with him because you would be afraid that he is only nice so that you’ll give him money. In the same way, if you do not have that emotional connection, then your potential date might think you have other motives.

S-Serenade Them

Serenade Them

This skill is often used in romantic movies but rarely taken advantage of in real life. This is where you set yourself apart from everyone else that has ever talked to this person. I suggest having a rose handy for the moment you meet this special someone. It is often helpful to think on your feet and think of song lyrics that rhyme with their name. I would not suggest doing this in a heavy populated area. If you are not sure how to serenade someone, there are videos on YouTube that will make you a pro in no time.

K- Keep Interest

Keep Interest

Imagine a Vegas slot machine. Imagine your potential date slowly approaching the slot machine, popping a coin in and pulling the handle. Odds are they probably won’t win anything on the first try. So they try again, and again, and again. Pretty soon they not only have money invested in this machine, but also a lot of time, effort, and hope invested as well. The more they “invest” in this machine, the harder it will be for them to get up and walk away. Because they are convinced that the very next pull will be the one that sets off the JACKPOT.

In the Dating Casino of Life, you are the slot machine. And it’s your job to keep them invested in you so that it is harder for them to give up and not give you a chance. Sites like eHarmony.com have articles on communications secrets to keep someone interested. 

A- Ask for her number/date

Ask for number

After you have done all of the methods, you are now ready to take this to the next level. You want to get their number and ask them out on a date. You should be clear from the beginning that you are interested and would like to see them again. The best way to get a phone number is to keep it simple and say: “Hey, it was nice meeting you. If you give me your number, I will text or call you sometime, and we can hang out or go on a date.” The “Art of Charm” has an article on their website that also gives tips on how to effectively ask for someone’s number without making it awkward.

S- Success/Shot down

Success

If you have followed these steps, chances are you’re well on your way to a great relationship. But every once in a while you will be rejected. Remember not to take the rejection personally. Rejection happens to the best of us, and if they aren’t smart enough to realize the great person you are then they don’t deserve you! Winston Churchill said, “Courage is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.”  It takes a lot of courage to keep trying and not throw in the towel.

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The Importance of Context

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This past week the New England Patriots visited the White House for a visit following their recent Super Bowl win. According to Thomas Neumann of ESPN, the tradition of inviting sports teams to the White House started on Aug. 30, 1865, when President Andrew Johnson first welcomed the Brooklyn Atlantics and Washington Nationals amateur baseball clubs to the White House. The visits to the White House are usually lighthearted and fun, but the most recent visit of the New England Patriots got more coverage than it usually would.

The social media presence that Donald Trump has tends to get him into trouble, and often the reporters who he attacks look for ways to use social media against him. After Donald Trump’s statements about his inauguration attendance as opposed to President Barack Obama’s inauguration, a New York Times photo, comparing the two, flooded the internet. This picture caused a big debate on social media questioning the context surrounding the photo. This week, New York Times Sports’ Twitter account made a point to compare the number of the Patriots players attending this week and the players who attend two years ago when President Obama was President. There was only one issue; the photo lacked context.

Although only 34 Patriots players attended this week’s visit to the White House compared to the 50 two years ago, the emotions behind the post got the best of the writer for the New York Times, and he simply made a mistake. This is an important lesson that everyone should take note of, don’t allow emotions to dictate decisions.

As I have mentioned in a few previous posts, it is human nature to have a desire to feel validated in our views. The past few months have caused the constant battle between political affiliations to heighten and the emotions also attached to rise. This not only has an effect on society but can also have an adverse impact on those who engage in these political debates.

Dan Kahan, a law professor at Yale, did a study where he found that people use facts to try to prove their point of view on political issues. Instead of both parties agreeing once facts are presented, he found that the more information partisans get, the deeper their disagreements become. He says that “as a way of avoiding dissonance and estrangement from valued groups, individuals subconsciously resist factual information that threatens their defining values… what we believe about the facts, tells us who we are.”

Although facts supported by context might validate our views on an issue, they rarely change someone else’s opinion. As James Madison said, “As long as the reason of man continues fallible, and he is at liberty to exercise it, different opinions will be formed.”

Hippos Can’t Jump

I am a huge advocate for education. I try to learn something new every single day. Today I learned from a 1st grader that my mom teaches that hippos can’t jump. After doing research I found an article that confirmed that not only can hippos not jump but their milk is also bright pink. These are not things that I would have been able to learn in my communications classes today but instead required me to branch out and learn from someone who has researched random facts about Hippos. In the spirit of education this week I am exploring blogs that I thought had a similar audience of my blog. What I thought would be an easy task, I quickly got engulfed by the vast number of blogs that pop up when I searched “Religious and political blogs.” I spent a few hours looking through several blogs. Most didn’t have a writing style that intrigued me, and I quickly got bored but here a few that I thought were interesting to read, witty, or just provided information and opinions in a unique way. I do not agree with all (or any) of the views shared on these blogs, but they caught my attention.

Hippie Liberal Momma

Penelope Windeldorf

http://hippieliberalmomma.blogspot.com

The thing that intrigued me about Penelope’s blog was the fact that 1. It was called Hippie Liberal Momma and 2. The fact that her image was the state of Texas with 4 pictures in it. I intrigued to learn more and quickly learned that while most of her recent post don’t have much to do with politics, once you dig a little deeper you get to the meat of the political side of her blog. She has several witty posts included a post titled, “Ron Paul’s Brain is a Dirty Diaper.” This a 2011 post where she goes on a rant about the reasons why nobody should vote for Ron Paul. I loved the way that she is not afraid to say what she is thinking and makes sure that her opinions are known.

Intersections- Thoughts on Religion, Culture, and Politics

Debra Dean Murphy

https://debradeanmurphy.wordpress.com

Debra’s blog was one of the first ones that I came across as I was trying to search for people who wrote about politics but also included religion in their post/views. Debra’s writing style is the complete opposite of Penelope’s blog that I mentioned above. Debra’s writing style is very detailed, thought out, and seeks to benefit the reader. Instead of using the blog simply as a journal to air out her thoughts she uses the blog as a platform to expose others to insightful information. A recent post from November discusses how Facebook arguments about politics happen because we are willing to say things online that we would never say in person. She talks about the benefits of face to face discussion and how a lot of pieces of communication (like expressions and non-verbal communication) is lost online.

Heather Annastasia’s Blog- “Never talk about religion and politics.”

Heather Annastasia

https://heatherannastasia.blogspot.com

Heather Annastasia Blog features a writing style that is a mixture of both of the previous blogs I have mentioned. Heather uses the blog not only as a way to air out her thoughts but also seeks to educate her reader. She tries to tackle the taboo topic of mixing religion and politics with information the reader can use. Heather is the creative side of the blog, and uses Rob Constantine as the “left brain” of the blog, as she calls it, to bring research and hard facts to back up the post in the blog. She uses wit to tackle literally everything (one of her recent posts is simply about “dust”) but tries to offer mainly insight into religion and politics and how they intersect each other.