Since I am recently married, I thought that I would give some advice to my young friends who have not been as lucky as I am and found the perfect person for them. I have had several people ask me for advice, and so I have come up with an effective method of successfully getting a date. The method I have established is The B.L.O.S.K.A.S. Method. The B.L.O.S.K.A.S. method has been 100% successful (only one person has tried it that I am aware of) and should only be used by people serious about getting a date.
B- Be on the lookout
One of the most important things to remember is that you never know when you will run into, what seems to be, the perfect date. Once you master these skills, you will be prepared to put them into practice the second you meet someone you’d like to date. Make sure that you keep your eyes out everywhere that you go for your next potential date.
L- Lure them in
After finding a target and committing to the person, you have to use methods to make them interested. Dating is a lot like fishing; you have to know what tools to use and when to use them. One of the best ways of doing this is not to seem desperate but instead, make them feel like they would be the one who should be begging you for a date.
O- Open emotionally
It is important to make an instant connection and make sure that your intentions are clear from the start. You have to show them that you are interested in them as an individual and do not have alternative motives. The moment your potential date realizes that you care about them is the moment they’re hooked. For example, imagine you were lost in a strange city, and a homeless man off the street came up to you and started giving you directions. He is really “nice” to you but you, probably would not feel like making a personal connection with him because you would be afraid that he is only nice so that you’ll give him money. In the same way, if you do not have that emotional connection, then your potential date might think you have other motives.
This skill is often used in romantic movies but rarely taken advantage of in real life. This is where you set yourself apart from everyone else that has ever talked to this person. I suggest having a rose handy for the moment you meet this special someone. It is often helpful to think on your feet and think of song lyrics that rhyme with their name. I would not suggest doing this in a heavy populated area. If you are not sure how to serenade someone, there are videos on YouTube that will make you a pro in no time.
K- Keep Interest
Imagine a Vegas slot machine. Imagine your potential date slowly approaching the slot machine, popping a coin in and pulling the handle. Odds are they probably won’t win anything on the first try. So they try again, and again, and again. Pretty soon they not only have money invested in this machine, but also a lot of time, effort, and hope invested as well. The more they “invest” in this machine, the harder it will be for them to get up and walk away. Because they are convinced that the very next pull will be the one that sets off the JACKPOT.
In the Dating Casino of Life, you are the slot machine. And it’s your job to keep them invested in you so that it is harder for them to give up and not give you a chance. Sites like eHarmony.com have articles on communications secrets to keep someone interested.
A- Ask for her number/date
After you have done all of the methods, you are now ready to take this to the next level. You want to get their number and ask them out on a date. You should be clear from the beginning that you are interested and would like to see them again. The best way to get a phone number is to keep it simple and say: “Hey, it was nice meeting you. If you give me your number, I will text or call you sometime, and we can hang out or go on a date.” The “Art of Charm” has an article on their website that also gives tips on how to effectively ask for someone’s number without making it awkward.
S- Success/Shot down
If you have followed these steps, chances are you’re well on your way to a great relationship. But every once in a while you will be rejected. Remember not to take the rejection personally. Rejection happens to the best of us, and if they aren’t smart enough to realize the great person you are then they don’t deserve you! Winston Churchill said, “Courage is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.” It takes a lot of courage to keep trying and not throw in the towel.